Adele needed 'a lot of therapy' to process the death of her father
Adele reveals she ‘made peace’ with her estranged father before his death at 57… as she reflects on how their troubled relationship led to ‘toxic’ romances with men
- Adele’s father Mark Evans died in May of 2021 at age 57
- He was estranged from her after trying to sell stories about her to tabloids
- Adele says they made ‘peace’ before his passing from cancer
- She credited ‘sound baths, meditation, therapy’ and alone time for her healing
- Therapy also helped her deal with the emotional fallout from her 2019 split from ex-husband Simon Konecki and how it connected to her childhood
- She is now dating sports agent Rich Paul
Adele helped deal with her father death with ‘a lot of therapy’ and ‘a lot of time spent’ alone.
The Grammy-winning songstress explained how she processed her grief following dad Marc Evans’ May 2021 passing while opening up for Vogue’s latest cover.
‘It was a lot of sound baths. It was a lot of meditation. It was a lot of therapy. And a lot of time spent on my own,’ the British beauty, 33, admitted.
Healing: Adele told Vogue she dealt with her father death with ‘a lot of therapy’ and ‘a lot of time spent’ alone
RIP: The Grammy winner had been estranged from her father for nearly a decade before his death, but she says they made ‘peace’ before he passed at 57-years-old
Marc and Adele had a complicated relationship through his life.
He split with her mom when the singer was a toddler and was largely absent during the star’s childhood.
Later when she became famous, he was caught selling stories to the UK tabloid The Sun, leading to a nearly decade long estrangement.
But the Hello songstress was willing to forgive him before his passing from cancer at age 57, telling Vogue: ‘I know he loved me, and we actually got our peace before he died.’
Still, after his death she found her anxiety continue to creep in at unexpected times.
‘I’d have a lovely night with my friends and then I’d wake up like a tsunami was coming for me.’
Anxiety: Adele suffered serious anxiety and sought out therapy to process her feelings. ‘I’d have a lovely night with my friends and then I’d wake up like a tsunami was coming for me,’ she remembered
‘I remember sitting [outside] with two of my friends and I was like, When will I stop feeling like this? And they were like, In time.’
‘And I was like, Yeah, but how much time? And one of them cried and was just like, I don’t know. It’s gonna be a ride. And it was.’
While handling her father’s loss, she was still dealing with the emotional fallout from her 2019 split from ex-husband Simon Konecki, who she shares nearly-nine-year-old son Angelo with.
During her journey with therapy she came to find that many of her feelings about the divorce were intertwined with ‘issues’ with her dad, which she’d be ‘avoiding’ for years.
Adele worked through the dark feelings leftover from her childhood distance from her dad, grappling with the reality of being raised ‘Not being sure if someone who is supposed to love you loves you, and doesn’t prioritize you in any capacity when you’re little. You assume it and get used to it.’
Emotions: Through therapy she began to realize how her relationship with her father affected how she treated men in her life, like ex Simon Konecki, above in 2013
Tough: Adele also began to find solace in the gym, telling Vogue ‘It became my time. I realized that when I was working out, I didn’t have any anxiety. It was never about losing weight’
Through therapy she began to see how her relationship with her father shaped the way she treated the other men in her life.
‘My relationship with men in general, my entire life, has always been: You’re going to hurt me, so I’ll hurt you first. It’s just toxic and prevents me from actually finding any happiness,’ the singer said.
Adele also began to find solace in the gym.
‘It became my time. I realized that when I was working out, I didn’t have any anxiety. It was never about losing weight,’ she explained.
Happy and healthy: Now, she’s enjoying a healthy romantic relationship with boyfriend Rich Paul, above
‘I thought, If I can make my body physically strong, and I can feel that and see that, then maybe one day I can make my emotions and my mind physically strong.’
Talking about her anxiety these days, the chart-topper said: ‘I definitely learnt a lot of tools in my therapy, but I also just go with it.
‘I find the anxiety gets worse when you try and get rid of it.’
Now, she’s enjoying a healthy romantic relationship with boyfriend Rich Paul.
‘We’re very happy,’ she told Vogue of the sports agent, who reps high-profile talent like LeBron James.
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On her divorce from Simon Konecki: ‘I was just going through the motions and I wasn’t happy. Neither of us did anything wrong. Neither of us hurt each other or anything like that. It was just: I want my son to see me really love, and be loved. It’s really important to me. I’ve been on my journey to find my true happiness ever since.’
On their son Angelo: ‘There were a few older girls who chased him around, asking if I was his mom. He was just like: ‘I think her name’s Adele, yeah. My mom. My mom.’ I’m not Adele to him. He felt like he was being bullied, because they were annoying him. I said: ‘That’s not bullying. Just say, Yeah, she’s my mom. She wiped my ass,’ she jokes.
On finding love with Rich Paul: ‘Rich just incredibly arrived. I don’t feel anxious or nervous or frazzled. It’s quite the opposite. It’s wild. I’m a 33-year-old divorced mother of a son, who’s actually in charge. The last thing I need is someone who doesn’t know where they’re at, or what they want. I know what I want. And I really know what I don’t want.’
On her weight loss: ‘It was because of my anxiety. Working out, I would just feel better. It was never about losing weight, it was always about becoming strong and giving myself as much time every day without my phone. I got quite addicted to it. I work out two or three times a day. So I do my weights in the morning, then I normally hike or I box in the afternoon, and then I go and do my cardio at night. I was basically unemployed when I was doing it. And I do it with trainers.’
On reconnecting with her father: ‘We actually got our peace, again contrary to reports. I played him my album just a week before he passed, over Zoom. One thing that definitely happened in my divorce was that it humanised my parents for me. Big time. I went to hell and back! And in that I found the peace to forgive him. He was ready to go and he lasted a long time with it. So thank you.’
On Amy Winehouse: ‘I got really famous right as Amy Winehouse died. And we watched her die right in front of our eyes. It really offended me. I picked up the guitar because of Amy’s first album. She means the most to me out of all artists. Because she was British. Because she was amazing. Because she was tortured. Because she was so funny.’
On winner her 2017 Grammy over Beyoncé: ‘My personal opinion is that Beyoncé definitely should have won. I just said to her, like, the way that the Grammys works, and the people who control it at the very, very top – they don’t know what a visual album is. They don’t want to support the way that she’s moving things forward with her releases and the things that she’s talking about.’
On her new album 30: ‘I feel like this album is self-destruction, then self-reflection and then sort of self-redemption. But I feel ready. I really want people to hear my side of the story this time. I assumed it would be about my divorce but it’s kind of not.’
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