Kate Beckinsale shares her pregnancy loss to support Chrissy Teigen

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Last week Chrissy Teigen and husband John Legend shared the devastating news that Chrissy miscarried their third child. She posted heartbreaking photos from the hospital of her loss. The public mourning drew criticism from many including public figures on twitter and Instagram.

Kate Beckinsale saw the attacks levied at Chrissy for sharing her pain and grief of losing an unborn child. She shared her story of miscarrying in a show of support. Kate wrote that the experience of miscarrying at 20 weeks was the loneliest and most soul destroying period in her life. She also described the shame and shock that a woman feels after miscarrying and said there is no acceptable way to grieve such a loss. She accompanied her statement with a handwritten note on pregnancy loss from AllontheBoard. Below is a full transcript from her Instagram:

I’ve noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby. As if there’s some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable. Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known. There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture. Your milk comes in, with no one to feed. It can be the loneliest, most soul destroying period of time, particularly if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has. I think it’s an honour to be allowed into another persons grief, especially with a subject like this which so often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn’t, for you ,come to a bloody and terrible halt. Sending so much love to the Legend family, but also so much to the women and couples who have kept it quiet and suffered. I know there are so many. Thank you @chrissyteigen for making sure it is abundantly clear how devastating this is, and how life changing it can be without support. Let’s let the grieving decide what’s right for them. Send support or keep quiet . This is a really hard time to bear .Blessings and hugs to all x

[From Kate Beckinsale’s Instagram]

I feel like so many people were hella judgmental about Chrissy sharing her grief and pain so publicly. I think it took so much courage for her to share her experience. As someone who watched my mother grieve over the loss of my sister who was six months and saw how isolated she felt, I can only imagine the millions of women who feel shame, grief and shock when they miscarry. What makes it worse is that miscarriages are such a common event but there is still shame projected onto women for having them.

What was infuriating was women who were attacking Chrissy for sharing her story. However many women who began to share their miscarriage stories like Kate. It took a lot of courage for Kate to share such a personal story in support of Chrissy.

Hopefully this will encourage a more open discussion about miscarriage and infertility. No woman or man should ever feel shame about these sort of experiences. The more we talk about it openly, the less alone women like Chrissy and Kate will feel. People need to stop projecting their feelings and judgments and allow others to express their pain or joy however the hell they please. If you don’t like it just scroll past. It really is that simple. And kudos to Kate for being such a class act.

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I’ve noticed people criticizing @chrissyteigen for sharing deeply intimate photos of the loss of her baby. As if there’s some protocol during soul-scouring calamity that, if not observed, emboldens people who do not know her or her family to say how she should be handling the unimaginable. Years ago, I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I had managed to keep my pregnancy quiet and I absolutely collapsed inside and no one would have known. There is grief, shame and shock so often that come with an experience like this, plus the heartbreak of your body continuing, after the loss, to act as if it had a child to nurture. Your milk comes in, with no one to feed. It can be the loneliest, most soul destroying period of time, particularly if you are not in the position of having an emotionally connected, supportive partner like Chrissy has. I think it’s an honour to be allowed into another persons grief, especially with a subject like this which so often puts a woman into that hall of mirrors state of life continuing as if the world hasn’t, for you ,come to a bloody and terrible halt. Sending so much love to the Legend family, but also so much to the women and couples who have kept it quiet and suffered. I know there are so many. Thank you @chrissyteigen for making sure it is abundantly clear how devastating this is, and how life changing it can be without support. Let’s let the grieving decide what’s right for them. Send support or keep quiet . This is a really hard time to bear .Blessings and hugs to all x

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